Read This if You’re Single

This could apply to everyone, BUT this is a friendly reminder specifically for all the people who are NOT in relationships right now: YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS.

You are not behind if you aren’t dating, engaged, or married to someone at this moment. You are still cool even if you don’t have a gf/bf to coordinate this year’s Halloween costumes with or someone to post a cute, anniversary photo about. You are still happy even if you don’t have a plus one to bring to that event, party, or your friend’s wedding. You are you WITHOUT a significant other and you are still you WITH a significant other. 

You are still THRIVING regardless if someone is romantically interested in you. 

Don’t get me wrong, I think relationships and marriage are absolutely beautiful, but I don’t think either are the end goals in life. I think the real end goal is to live out our best lives with what we’ve been given, whether or not that exists in a relationship.

I have really loved being in relationships, and I have also really loved not being in relationships. Each season of being in a relationship has always brought me something new, sweet, exciting, and beautiful to learn. Each season of not being in a relationship has always brought me something new, sweet, exciting, and beautiful to learn.

Life doesn’t begin (or end) once you enter a relationship; Life continues as you learn how to grow with another person. So hey you, single, non-dating, non-married person, your life has already begun, so continue living your best life now.

So if you find yourself in a non-relationship season, stop waiting around and thinking you need to find your person before you can go do the stuff you want to do. You don’t have wait till you’re in a relationship or married just like you don’t have to wait till you have that certain job, get that promotion, or reach whatever that “status” is to go out and live that joyous and adventurous life you want right now.

If you’re just waiting around on the sidelines of your life for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect to walk in before you feel like you can move forward/feel successful, you aren’t going to find him/her doing that. Seriously, if you’re doing that, just stop now. Instead...

Go book the trip.
Volunteer somewhere.
Adopt the cats (or the dog, bird, etc.) 
Meet new people. 
Pursue your degree(s). 
Buy the house.
Change jobs.
Find a new hobby.
Invest time in your family and close friends. 
Set personal goals and pursue them. 
Go on adventures. 
Throw a party.
Take yourself out on a date. 

Don’t worry so much right now. You’ll meet your person once you start living your own life in the fullest of ways (and you know what? Your person will find that super attractive). 

“Be an interesting person. Live a full life today so you have something wonderful to invite someone into.”

Just promise me you’ll...

Live. Your. Life. Regardless. Of. Your. Relationship. Status. That’s. All.

- Cathleen